Until

life failure scripts

… about our autopilot: freedom or failure? “You can’t go out and play, until you haven’t finished your homework!” — I heard my mom say so many times, during my childhood. True, that I have slammed each door on my way to my room — just so she can sense my dislike, the result was […]

PCM-Process Communication Model®

be better with PCM®

What’s PCM®? A.k.a. Process Communication Model®. As I wrote previously, I have a very good personal relationship with PCM®. As all good relationships, this too started off on a rocky road. But the more I saw myself through the lens of PCM®, the more I started to love it. Based on my personal experience, I […]

TRUST

bizalom, magamban és másokban

What fits in the trust frame? Which is not really a frame, but a matrix. What am I talking about? Stephen Covey’s trust matrix. As the enclosed figure shows, we can approach our trust (or distrust) from four directions. Depending on how much we tend to trust and how much we like to question things.  […]

COACHING or MENTORING

coaching mentoring

COACHING or MENTORING? … about who’s who Coaching is knowledge, mentoring is experience. Seeing that written down, I myself can see, that it’s not really obvious, what the difference might be, but let’s try to figure it out anyhow. I say coaching is knowledge, because without previous experience, you can go to a formal coach […]

SUCCESS

a siker útja the road to success

SUCCESS … about why goals fail I previously wrote about goals and the specificity required to chart out a strategy around them. This is enough to set them, but it is hardly enough to achieve them. While most spend the beginning of the year planing, setting goals, I like to spend it in retrospect. Why? Because […]

GOALS

célok, goals

GOALS … about slicing the elephant People basically have one problem (let’s pretend that’s true)… We prefer to be pretty much everywhere, except in the here and now. We dream (let’s call them goals), we chart out IF … THEN algorithms to our future. Or, still try to put one and one together about that […]

SANITY

… about our responsibility Well, the past 1,5 years have been kind of hectic, for everybody working in pretty much any kind of industry. Employees complain about burnout, companies are cutting costs on trainings and coaching, and pretty much everyone is suffering. The individual, the support professionals and unavoidably all companies where these individuals form […]

BURNOUT

burnout

… about canaries in coal mines It’s not me, it’s you! aka, what leads to burnout? I was doing some research on the topic of burnout and I have come across the most interesting timeline in the history of psychology (probably not, but still…). We all know Zimbardo’s Stanford experiment. Turns out, the findings during […]

Change

… about who we (really?) are Starting from my personal experience, I think there is a point in any type of coaching or therapeutic process, when we ask ourselves: “is this really who I am?”. It usually comes, when we start noticing ourselves breaking the pattern, and reacting differently to our environment. As we’ve seen […]

RESOLUTIONS

… about the “new year, new me” Well, not exactly new me, but definitely better. Let’s keep our fingers crossed…  So, while trying to plan out my 2021, I started making a list of focus topics, to have a reminder of what is truly important. 2020 was an overall better than average year, so most […]